National Childhood Obesity Month: (Repost)How the love of the game beat obesity

September is National Childhood Obesity Month and I thought this post I shared with you all last year would be appropriate and motivation for any parents dealing with a child fighting obesity.

As my daughter continues to count down the days until her 17th birthday I can’t help to rejoice on how far God has brought us.  I was over hearing her, my husband and son talk about all of her challenges and how they helped her be who she is today.  Often times when we’re talked about and looked down on, we never think of the positive impact it can have if we persevere and not allow it to penetrate our heart (the core of who we really are).

I wrote a post before on the reaction my daughter received when she returned to school this past school year.    From the age of 6 my daughter struggled with her weight…..

Husband teaching her how to cut hair at an early age

Of course we would watch what she ate and make sure we all ate the same way, but I think my daughter’s main problem was not enough exercise. Up until she was 5 yrs old we lived in the city. The public school she attended had gym and recess, but I don’t remember them changing for gym. I also think there was a time that the didn’t have gym at all.

When she was about 8yrs old we moved to the suburb. She participated in gym as well, but during the school year she didn’t go outside to play very much.  As she got older her weight would fluctuate, but she was still overweight.

These pics are from Take Your Child To Work Day (11yrs)

 

During the summer after she finished 6th grade she went to a basketball camp.  She realized how much she enjoyed it and tried out for the 7th grade basketball team.  Since she never played any sports before, she had a lot of work to do.  Most likely the reason she was allowed on the team was because of her height.  The nicked named her “Tumble Weed” because she fell all the time.  If you notice most heavy athletes are slow(running).  She sat on the bench ALOT!!!!!!!

As she continued to play ball she slimmed down a little bit.  We thought that she was just going to be a big girl.  From her freshman year all the way up until her junior year, she would practice with the freshman team, sophomore team and varsity everyday.  She said when she asked the varsity coach her freshman year could she practice with them he looked at her like he saw ghost.  Her sophomore year she received a gym rat award because she was in the gym everyday after school until it was time to go home.  Her drive to work hard had nothing to do with losing weight.  It was all because of her passion to do her best and her growing love for basketball.

She said other teammates told her she couldn’t play, she was fat and other things that would normally kill the spirit of a child.  However, she kept going.  Some kids would start on the varsity team as freshman because they were so good.  I would tell her to wait until her turn.  It’s not always good to move so far ahead of yourself that you miss out on development.

Last summer she played with an AAU team that ran the hell out of them.  These girls ran and ran and ran and ran……….Before you knew it we looked up and was like……”You look skinny!”  We were baffled!  Not only did she loose a lot of weight ( about 35lbs we’re still not sure because it snuck up on us), but she was faster.  Every college coach complimented her on how fast she was.  Again we’re baffled!  This wasn’t the same little girl that I’d want to slap somebody Mama if they said a negative comment about her at a game.  Yep!  They did it!  One parent yelled out, “Stop her big &%?!”  Actually I took that as a compliment because they thought she was gonna run they butt over!LOL

I know this is probably the longest post I’ve ever written but I have come to realize that keeping our kids active is one way to keep them healthy, but if that action can be fueled by passion……….It’s a done deal.  Not only are they healthy physically, but mentally too.  Child athletes endure a lot!  As a parent being there to encourage them and left them up when others are tearing them down is the way we help them fight through their adversities and all of the foolishness.  I’m so proud of my daughter and every time I think of her journey, I cry.  Tears of joy!

Nicole

Helping Moms power on faith, Tune-In to family life, Flip through to do list, Turnip in the garden & tell you what’s on the Menu. Nicole is a wife, mother of 3 and a Chorkie. Blogging and vlogging about the things that she enjoys in life, her family, cooking, gardening, decorating, planning, crafts/diy, thrifting, giving roadside finds new life and more.

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When the script is flipped. What the bully’s Mom has to say…

When the victim is victimized again

Within the past few months, you can’t turn on the television without hearing a story about a child being bullied.  Whenever stories become prominent in the media, often we brush it off as a coincidence.  However, sometimes I think it’s one of our greatest opportunities as parents to learn from some of the hideous things that plague our world. 

A close friend of mine recently went through a very difficult time with her son in regards to being bullied at school.  I asked if I could share her experience with you because I learned so much from what she went through.  She was glad that I wanted to share her story if, it would help any other Moms out there.

Starring

In this post I’m going to call my friend Theresa and her son Devon. 

Scene I

A few months ago Theresa’s son Devon, began to come home complaining of an older kid at school picking on him.  She said at first she didn’t take him seriously until she noticed he complained frequently of these incidents.  When she began to ask him about it, he would tell her that it was the same boy that bothered him when he was in second grade in his after-school program.  After realizing that this could possibly be a serious problem, she began to pay close attention.

Caught in the act

While picking up her son up from school one afternoon, she noticed that he was very upset and saw the bully messing with him.  She asked him what was the problem and he told her the same boy was picking on him again.  She told her husband about it and they agreed that she would go speak to someone at school the following day. 

This show can’t go on

After notifying the principle about the incidents, she said, ” I thought it would be over!”  But… It wasn’t.  A few other occurrences happened and after notifying the principle and the bully’s parents being informed, the child continued to harass her son.  Theresa said the last thing she thought to do was check her son’s school manual for the proper procedure in handling this matter.  But after another incident she asked for a conference with the child’s parent and also, went to their local police station to file an incident report. 

The Script is flipped

Finally the day came that she was able to meet with the bully’s Mom and come to some sort of resolution and get him to stop harassingher son, Devon.  She said the meeting went really well until the parents of the bully found out that she filed an incident report on their Member of the Student Council, Honor Roll and outstanding child.  She explained to them that she notified the school 3 times and the mother of the bully talked to her son and he continued the harassment.  “I was looking out for the protection of my son,” Theresa told me.  “Everyone seemed to look at it as if it weren’t a problem!  When my son is coming home upset and arguing with his siblings because he doesn’t know of any other way to handle it!  What am I suppose to do as a mother?”  Theresa said.  It hurt me as a friend to hear her have such conflicting feelings about protecting her child.  I tried to assure her that she did what she felt was best.  However, the parent of the bully tried to flip the script as if, Devon had some severe emotional issues because he cried during the meeting.  The bully’s mom also told her son to watch out for Devon.

Mouth Wide open

I was so out done!! But then I began to think.  Now, would we really expect for someone to take full responsibility for their actions or try to teach their child to?  I just think it’s a shame that even when we attempt to protect our children to the best of our ability, people will still flip the script and act as if it’s your fault.

Nicole

Helping Moms power on faith, Tune-In to family life, Flip through to do list, Turnip in the garden & tell you what’s on the Menu. Nicole is a wife, mother of 3 and a Chorkie. Blogging and vlogging about the things that she enjoys in life, her family, cooking, gardening, decorating, planning, crafts/diy, thrifting, giving roadside finds new life and more.

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